Sometimes I wonder that when we are learning one skill and some people ask me this question, that Praveen, how can I know that I have reached a significant milestone in that skill? Take any skill. I’m not just talking about public speaking or storytelling, Take any skill. By the way, I strongly believe that, apart from breathing, we have to learn everything in life.
Breathing is one skill, which mother nature has given us. And even we have spoiled that many of us, we just breathe shallow, we don’t breathe deep. Just observe a child you will see how stomach is going up and down, up and down that’s called deep breathing. And if you sleep even, I sleep, I just breathe shallow.
Now the point I’m making is that apart from breathing, if everything is a skill, then to develop any skill we have to learn and practice. Now we have to learn and practice that doesn’t mean that we have to only practice. Sometimes people only practice and how do you know that we are learning, practicing the correct thing? So first we have to learn what are the correct techniques and then you have to practice, develop any skill.
But the question is, how do you know that you have read the significant level or you have achieved one significant milestone in any skill?
Let’s take an example of cricket. And if we say cricket, the second name coming in my mind is of course Sachin Tendulkar. So, I’ve heard him in various interviews because I not only like him as a cricketer, I like him as a person. Now he said that when he’s playing cricket ball, imagine if someone is coming towards him with a ball in his hand, aggression in his eyes and running a hundred kilometers, throwing a ball, a hundred kilometers per hour, then to hit that ball, a cricketer or a batsman, gets only fraction of seconds. Now there are two possibilities here. If your active mind, if you’re using as a cricket player, if your active mind is, you’re using your active mind that the possibility is the scenario will be different and when you are using your subconscious mind, your scenario is different. What do you mean by that? Sachin Tendulkar says that most of the time, if you know, in case of fast bowler, we just use our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind takes over. We just react.
Example, imagine there’s a snake in front of you. You will just react as per your skill. Your subconscious minds will take over. If you are expert, you might hold that snake and start observing it. And if you are non-expert, you will just run away from that. Or if you are cruel, person will start killing that. So, your subconscious mind takes over most of the time, especially when you are in difficult situation. Now, public speaking is a difficult situation. Understand that in public speaking, when you are standing in front of people, it’s not a very rosy situation is a difficult situation and they’re also your subconscious mind takes, ideally it should take over.
Now when subconscious mind takeover subconscious mind takeover when, especially in cricket, when you have played a short ball, imagine a Shoib Aktar bowling a short ball, a very fast running shot ball. Can’t even see a ball. Your subconscious mind will take over because last so many times and met, in last so many years, you know Sachin Tendulkar has gone to West Indies, he has played on bouncing tracks. He has used machine to play those bouncers. So, your subconscious man has enough data in it and your subconscious mind is ready to take over that.
But in case of active mind, if you say, no, you have, you know imagine I standing in front of Shoib Aktar, there’s nothing in my subconscious mind, I have to use my active mind. Now, the problem in acting mind, especially when you are in trouble, especially when you are in front of people, the problem with active mind, that active mind especially when you are in difficult situation is busy in two things. And if you are in front of people, difficult situation alone is a different thing when you are in front of people, I always believe that.
The easiest way to understand the importance of public and public speaking is when you know, your mother is to give that tea in a very inexpensive cup and she used to keep expensive cups on the top, not allowed to touch also because she used to say that those cups are only for people. It means only for guests. It means you are hardwired to show best image in front of people. You’re hardwire to show that.
So, when you are in front of people in difficult situations, especially even in public speaking, you know if you’re using your active mind, it means indirectly you have not trained your subconscious mind. You have not practiced well; you have not learned the correct techniques. Your active mind is there and your act to mind will be busy in two things because you’re standing in front of people, your active mind will be busy, am I going to show, am I showing the correct image or not? And the second, of course, ideally your active mind should be busy also in delivering the content or speaking in front of people.
So, to be very precise, you achieve a significant milestone in any skill when your subconscious mind takeover and there’s a huge scope of improvement when you are using your active your mind, when you are doing that skill, when you are executing that skill.