Are you meeting your bosses or colleagues or team members virtually nowadays?
Maybe on zoom, maybe on some other internal platforms.
Sometimes people say that, Praveen because I’m meeting virtually, there’s no role of body language.
What do you mean by, there’s no rule of body language?
It means they can’t even see my body Praveen, half only half body even if it is visible only half body is visible not even the full body.
Role of Body Language In Virtual Meetings?
Let me give few examples and that will help you to understand, whether it is really important or not body language.
What is body language?
The body speaks whether you like it or not like it.
My body is speaking right now.
What does your body speaks?
Imagine for a moment that you are on the platform, you just got off from the train and you are on the platform. And suddenly you realize that, hey I don’t have a ticket in my pocket. And you see a TC standing in front of you.
Now, the way you will move, I must tell you, your body will speak.
Why the chances of you getting caught by your TC is much higher when you don’t have a ticket in your pocket?
Because your body is speaking, your eyes are speaking, your walk is speaking.
Is Body Language Only About Physical Interaction?
Sometimes we assume that only when we are on foot, the body speaks.
Now, when we are in front of people, also doesn’t matter whether we are standing in front of a live audience physically or virtually your body speaks, but when we are speaking, we have a message, imagine when you are speaking with your boss.
You have something to inform him, or you have a message you want to speak something. Or as a boss, when you are speaking with your colleagues, you have to give a message right?
Define Body Language
Now, your body also speaking. And in case if these two are not syncing with each other, for example, I don’t know whether you have attended live webinars or not especially nowadays many trainers are doing a live webinar.
Just critically observe, sometimes, many trainers have a habit of continuously looking down. You can see, they look down like this continuously. And suddenly sometimes after looking down, the expression changes. They feel a little happy or sometimes they get a little nervous.
Because there’s a chat pop-up down imagine if you’re doing on zoom, there’s a chat pop-up and if you’re meeting hundreds of people thousands of people will meet sometimes thousands of people. And someone is writing very good, if someone’s writing bad.
So, what is this, your body is speaking.
It’s very visible, you can easily make out that the person is looking down and reacting like this?
And sometimes it affects very badly.
When I did that and nowadays, I never do this but even I did that when I started training people initially.
My Crime During Live Trainings
I also kept my eyes on the chat and then I realized that the biggest crime I can do in training, is this. That I’m diverting my mind from the content.
So my intention here is not to gain praise right. We have certain other ways also expressing okay.
You can write all those, and I can always analyze whatever you are writing afterward.
But at that point of time when you’re live, the biggest crime, I will do is not focus on the content and focus on something else.
Right, even if that something else is very nice, very good still it is not recommended.
But my body speaks, sometimes people do not have a habit of looking into the lens and they look here and there and speak.
So your eyes are speaking, you’re looking here and there.
It’s like you’re meeting someone, there’s a huge difference when you look into the eyes of that person and speak. And look here and there and speak.
The Body Speaks Always
So, whether it’s a virtual meeting, whether it’s a physical one-to-one meeting to one-to-many meeting, the body speaks.
Even if you’re just showing your half body when your hands are not visible still your eyes will speak, your face will speak, you cannot stop that.
Now you will say, Praveen then how to have a very good body language?
It’s very simple.
The best way of speaking is this.
What do you mean by speaking naturally?
This is how I speak. Imagine if you are meeting your boss.
Just at the coffee shop or maybe a colleague at the coffee shop.
The way you are speaking at that point of time just speak like that.
Now I will say from it’s easy to say difficult to implement now it’s easier to implement also. The moment you learn how to speak effectively.
What do you mean by speaking effectively?
It’s nothing but organizing your content, your message.
You have a message, right?
So, you have a message, so you organize your message inside your brain. With the help of various examples or stories or some anecdotes. You pick maybe a few stories and some examples. You organize all that content. And then you deliver it very effectively.
What do you mean by effectively?
Within the time. This is the message. I want to give only this message. For this message, I have chosen this example or this quote, or this number. Very effectively in the time given time. Without worrying about anything else, your focus is only on that message, that’s a skill.
That’s a skill that you have to learn practice and implement.
Moment you become champion in that skill then you don’t have to worry about your body language.
Relation Between Your Body And Your Message
Why because your body will sync body will support your message.
What do you mean by not should not be worried?
It means you don’t have to worry about what my hands are doing, my legs are doing, my eyes are doing.
It will automatically get sync but moment if you are not confident about your message then the body doesn’t get a sync.
Then your body is speaking something else, and you are speaking something else.
And there is a conflict.
In case if you are thinking, no Praveen, in a virtual meeting body language is not important, reconsider this.
This is Praveen signing out until we meet again.