Is Complaining A Habit?

by | Nov 1, 2020 | Public Speaking | 4 comments

Don’t you feel that complaining continuously and staying in that complaining mode is a habit?

Let me share this incidence with you and then I would love to have your perspective on this.

I was speaking at one event and I landed at the airport and the organizer who came to pick me up, he said “Praveen, is it okay if you can just wait for some time because there’s one more speaker coming and we can go together in the car.”

I said, “I’d love to do that instead of traveling alone. I love to have someone with me.”

A very senior scientist arrived. Not only senior in work, even senior in age.

Almost 45 minutes drive from the airport till that venue and one of the best things which I’ve learned whenever you want to build a good conversation with a stranger the thumb rule is keep your mouth shut. Let that person speak and I realize that in 45 minutes, oh my God, this person has a habit of complaining.

In the night, sometimes some organizers they arranged dinner for speakers. So they all can spend time together. The next day was talks. And someone was sitting next to me and there are few people when you meet once you match their wavelength. And this gentleman, the senior scientist was sitting opposite to me, in front of me on the dining table.

And for some reason he decided to get up to take some chapatis and the moment he got up I said to the person who was sitting next to guy said “Hey, listen, he has a habit of complaining. Now, I can make him complain on something when he comes back.”

He looked towards me and said “Praveen, what are you saying?”

I said “Just watch”. 

And this gentleman came back. He sat down and I said, “Sir, so how is the food?”

And he said “Yeah, food is very nice, but this dal is not good.”

I said, “Yeah.” I looked towards him and now I said, “Sir, this institute is very well built. I think there are a lot of the good buildings and infrastructure is very nice.”

He said, “Yeah, but I think greenery is very less, Praveen. They should have planted more trees here.”

I looked towards him and said, “See.”

So don’t you feel that knowingly or unknowingly when we complain again, and again, we are developing that habit and we do that on a subconscious level. One of the best ways someone has used this and explain this was Peng Joon. I don’t know whether you have heard his name or not he is a global authority in digital marketing, doing extremely well.

It’s Worth Taking That Decision In Your Life

I remember attending a session some three years ago, and it was a three-day session.

On day one in the evening, he said something. He explained the same logic that sometimes people complain and because they spent too much energy and time complaining it was an unnecessary wrong investment of energy and time.

So, on day one in the evening only, he took one promise from us from all the people who have spent almost thousands of rupees to attend those three days’ workshop.

And the promise was this, that at least for next two days take a decision that you will not complain.

Now I look towards the person who is sitting next to me, I said, ”Hey, he is very smart.” And that person said, “Why?”

See, now we have promised no matter what he does in the next two days we cannot complain.

Well ladies and gentlemen, it’s worth taking that decision in your life.

It’s not worth complaining.

Whatever you have in your hand, just enjoy that.

What’s your perspective?

This is Praveen Wadalkar signing out until we meet again.


  1. Praveen Wadalkar

    Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts 🙂

  2. Shahbaz shaikh

    Yes sir, very true , knowingly or unknowingly at our subconscious mind, we keep on complaining, and it turns into habit , thanks sir for enlight us on this point

    • Praveen Wadalkar

      Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts 🙂

  3. Praveen Wadalkar

    Thank you for reading and sharing your feedback 🙂


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