Psychology of Helping Others

by | Jul 31, 2020 | Public Speaking | 5 comments


Imagine for a moment that you are driving a car and then you see someone standing on the road, waving a hand for a lift, will you stop. I think I have only four to five seconds to decide that and most of the time our subconscious mind decides whether to stop or not. 

When I Ask For Lifts In Remote Areas

As a solo traveler, I rely on lifts a lot because I’m a budgeted solo traveler. My daily budget is just 350 rupees per day, which includes my stay, travel food, everything and if I take lifts, I save a lot of money, but in the process, I have learned something and as a storyteller, whenever I learn something, it becomes my responsibility to share with you. 

When I Ask For Lifts In Mumbai

So When I take lifts in my solo trips on express highways, on national highways, in remote areas, nine out of ten times, I get the lift but if I come back to Mumbai and if I stand outside here on this road and ask for lift nine out of ten times, I will not get the lift, I tried. They just ignore you.

A few of you might say that people in remote areas and regions are more helpful compared to those who are in the city but I have my own take on this. 

Different Perspective

Now imagine that you are a solo traveler and I’m driving this car and I’m driving in a remote national express national highway and then you’re standing there and you’re asking for a lift, what is the first thought that comes in my mind? Okay, he’s looking tired. He’s standing with a big solo backpack. He might have used all his options and then decided to walk down. He deserves hope because he has already given his best, let me help him. So the first thought comes in my mind, in my subconscious mind, chances of me stopping very high. 

Whom To Help

But imagine you standing here on this road and I’m driving this car and if you ask for lift what will come in my mind, come on. He has options he can take rickshaws; he can take a bus. The station is just nearby, he can just walk down when he has options, he has not given his best, why is he asking for help. 

But does that mean that your chance of getting help is very high when you already have given your best and use all your options? Yes. Well, this is so true in our day to day life. 

Office Example

This example in the office, someone has gotten an assignment and that person, instead of working hard, goes ahead and then asks for help. Will the person get help?

I doubt it, but the same person has given his best, worked hard, spent sleepless nights and then asked for help. Definitely, the chances are very high that person will get help, because of what I have learned in my 16 years of a professional career. 

Entrepreneurship Experience

Especially in the last six years of entrepreneurship journey, that when you use all your options, when you give your best, and still if you fail you don’t have to ask for help people will proactively come and help you. 

5 Comments

  1. C.Raghava Rao

    Helping is definitely a good gesture as human being. Yet when one who seeks help it is desirable to help rather than extending helping hand without asking by others. Without expecting anything in return helping is great.

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  2. DHRUBA JYOTI BORAH

    I think the question has two answers in brief. We should help or should not. But if we go to the depth of both the answers, we will get a lot of possibilities. Just imagine, you are a solo traveller and someone raises his hand to request you for lift. There may two circumstances. The first one is positive circumstances, which is he may be in a hurry to reach his destination. Maybe some of his relatives in critical condition in a hospital. So instead of taking a public carrier, he is aking you (private car) for help. In this condition, you should help him. Now in the negative circumstance, we have heard a lot of robbery case in the news-papers. So by raising his hand, he may want to loot all of your belongings including your car also. So, in this case, you should not stop your car to help him. We need to take our own decision. This s my perspective. But generally, I like to help others.

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    • Praveen Wadalkar

      Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts ๐Ÿ™‚

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