Should We Take Decisions For Others?

by | Jul 12, 2020 | Public Speaking | 0 comments

Listen To Your Heart

What I strongly believe is well, when it comes to taking some major decisions in our life, when we take decisions that can change the destination, or that can change where we are going to reach in our life example, marriage, or selecting your job, or job vs entrepreneurship journey, these are major decisions in life. I believe that in this kind of major decision, you should not listen to others. You should listen only to your heart. You should not take advice, even if you are discussing with people that is secondary, but the final decision has to be taken by you. 

My Life ..My Decisions

Let me share with you one simple example. Just a few days ago, my mother called me and she said, Praveen someone from the family wants to speak to you. Not very close. I said who? She said, X, Y uncle. I said, yes, I know him. What happened? My mother said he’s thinking of quitting his job. I said, okay. So what? She said everyone is pushing him to not quit his job. The world is under lock down due to COVID. And he’s saying no, that’s enough. I don’t want to go back to my job again, because they’re reducing the salaries also, and others are saying, including his wife, she’s saying that even if you receive 50% salary, but if you receive a stable salary, that is enough to manage the household, but this gentleman is not listening. And, I suggested that he speak to you so you can give him the correct advice. 

Influence Someone?

Now, the correct advice is already predefined here. And my mother said, even I advised him that, don’t leave your job. That’s not the right time to quit. And I said, Mama, I have not met this uncle for the last so many years. I had absolutely no idea what was happening in his life. And I think just one call, one discussion is not going to give me permission to enter his life. On what basis I will advise him. 

We Didn’t Ask

In 2011, when I and my wife decided to start a business by quitting our job, we were doing extremely well. I was earning more than one Lakhs. My wife was earning around one Lakhs. We were earning good, no liabilities, having a home in Bombay. 

Should We Take Other’s Advise?

Imagine at that point in time, we’re going to someone for advice and saying that we are quitting our job and starting a business, they would have said, come on, No. And imagine if we had decided to listen to that advice, we have not reached where we’re in our life. 

So, good. We have not taken any advice. We thought it’s our decision. We’ll take the decision, but I have no idea on what basis I should be advising my uncle. Even if they speak to me, I will say only that this is a major decision of your life. You should take the decision. I’m no one to give advice. I’m no one to guide you. This is your decision. All this in a very positive connotation, but the part of the story is I will not be advising him. Let him take the decision. 

Whats Your Perspective?

What is your perspective on this? When people come to you and ask you for advice on some major decisions like this, we should give advice, or we should just tell them know that, you decide, this is your life.  


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