One realization for the first time, and I thought I must share that too.
When we speak in front of people on the stage, we have various indications, especially on our body, from which we can understand whether we are really speaking, calm, composed, relaxed, or there’s a scope of improvement.
Now, there’s always a scope of improvement in any skill, just not public speaking but any skill.
Let’s take an example, running. So every morning, I run five kilometers, I am targeting for 25 minutes, that is in 25 minutes, I should complete five kilometers, that’s difficult. The best time is around 31-32 minutes but if you stretch like this, even one minute, if you have a decrease, it’s very difficult.
Mastering The Skill
So I’m targeting. And I’m a part of a proper running Academy. So, fortunately, we live in Mumbai, where we have a national park and very fortunately, my home is very close to the national park, hardly five minutes.
So every day early in the morning 6 am, we have to get up at 6:30 we have to be there stretching and then we have to run.
And in running, you have to learn many things, like any other skill.
So you have to learn about your oxygen level. Also, there is all about the amount of oxygen-carrying capacity you have, that will decide whether you will able to run fast or not or for a long time or not your style of running your techniques and methods, your hand gestures, your shoulder whether you’re leaning down or forward or backward in many things like in any other skill.
Autonomous And Non-Autonomous Breathing
Let’s not go there deep today. But one thing which I have realized, and it’s highly relevant in public speaking also, like in running, it’s not about running fast, one can run fast. One can run fast for 500 meters, one kilometer, two kilometers three kilometers but it’s not about running fast. It’s about when you’re running fast, is your breath under control or not.
You might have seen sometimes people they run very fast but there is smile on the face relaxed and normal breathing and some people, breath differently when they are running. Same in swimming also some people do with ease and some people breath heavily.
Your breath is one thing that is autonomous also non-autonomous.
What do you mean by that? It’s something which you can control also, and it can go out of control say someone hands, it’s very easy. It’s like unless and until I’m not asking my hands to move my hands will not move my legs not move, right?
Breath is the only thing which we can control example I’m controlling but suddenly if I’m in panic my breath is out of control my breathe is not under control man, imagine the snake in front of me, breath will go out of control.
So breath is the only thing we have which we can control also and it can go out of control also most of the time in fear. It is okay, the problem is not fear. The problem is getting panic. Fear is natural. Fear like we are happy, we are sad, we have shame, happy, sad, these are feelings.
So you cannot say we are happyless, sadless, shameless, there has to be some moment where you have to feel ashamed, right?
Similarly, if you can’t say this, we cannot say we are fearless. Fear is a feeling. Fear is natural. Getting panic and going in panic mode is a problem, there is this huge problem that and moment you enter into panic, your breath, you lose control of your breath..
Room For Improvisation!
So when you run, it’s not about how fast you’re running. It’s what your breath is under control or not, if you’re breathing very heavily, it means you’re losing oxygen in your from your body, your oxygen-carrying capacity of your cell is very less we have to improve that.
If you see athletes, professional athletes, they have 60%, 70%, people like us normal people like 20-25 or 30, even below 20. We have to improve that it’s a trainable exercise is a trainable skill, improving your oxygen-carrying capacity because see, blood is only carrying oxygen.
So when we are running fast, and if your blood is carrying oxygen, then you’re not running out of breath. Your muscles are calm, composed, relaxed, agree.
So in running one indicator, doesn’t matter how you’re running, one indicator is your breath.
Same in speaking. One indicator you have, doesn’t matter how you’re speaking but when you’re speaking and if your breath is heavy, during speaking, or after speaking example, you have spoken for five minutes, and then you have switched off your video and after that you breathe heavily it means you have to improve, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong, you have to improve.
So many people are not running, there are so many people who are not speaking, at least we are running, we are speaking correctly.
So don’t feel bad that I’m breathless. Remember, it is not under control. But the end goal is to make sure when you’re speaking, while you’re speaking, even after speaking, observe your breath.
If your breath is normal, what do we mean normal breath? This, what I’m breathing right now is not breathing exercises. So if your breath is normal, while speaking after speaking, it means you’re improving.
So next time when you’re making a video or next time when you’re speaking, observe your breath during and after.
This is Praveen Wadalkar signing out until we meet again