Why You Should Not Believe in Yourself

by | Jun 30, 2020 | Public Speaking | 27 comments

Many times, I’ve heard people saying this that we should believe in ourselves, self-belief is the key.

But I think sometimes it’s very important for us to disbelieve. We should not believe in ourselves.

Why We Should Not Believe In Ourselves

Imagine for a moment that you are participating in one competition. If you strongly start believing in this, that yes, I’m going to win this competition, even before you participate, even before the results are out, the strong belief that yes, I’m going to win then you might feel a little relaxed.

But on other hand, if you start this believing in yourself that no, maybe not, which many of us we do, many of us before the competition, we have that small bug or small thoughts somewhere in our mind that maybe we will or I will not win this competition.

But that’s the true thought and if you’re accepting that thought and if you’re disbelieving in yourself that, yes, I don’t believe a hundred percent that I’m going to win this competition, I disbelieve in me.

The Outcome of Disbelief

The moment, you disbelieve, you will start working hard, you will start stretching your limits, you will go beyond your capacity for that competition.

So, when you disbelieve in yourself it’s very positive. When you disbelieve in yourself, you try to work hard at every point of time in every moment.

So not necessary we have to believe and stay relaxed, maybe sometimes in your life, disbelief and stretch your limit, go beyond your capacity.

What’s your perspective on this?

27 Comments

  1. Sathyamoorthi

    Yes, it’s true. Because we learned little size but we unlearned is world size..

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  2. SETTU

    Ya Praveen, disbelieve sometimes give power to move very strongly towards the goal. It makes curiosity to discover more in order to avaid failure. What’s important here is we have to generate the power for ourselves to over come the disbelieve.

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  3. Ashraf

    Yes, we should beleive ourself, bit i dont have sir

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  4. Mrunalini

    My perspective on this is that one should have some belief on ourselves as this will help him/her to face the competition. At least he/she will try to prepare for competition. But over-belief will harm as it will not work for that.

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  5. SATISH BACHLEY

    Yes Sir,
    I also agree and convince that we should not tbe total 100% belief in our self. Some disbelief shlould be left for hard work and improvement in your self.

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    • Jayvant Harlikar

      I am optimistic and Strong contender in belief, even you feel that you may not do something confidently but your belief help you to prepare for it.

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  6. Rajiv

    It seems to be good

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  7. Magesh

    Believe, it depends on situation. Agreed the above comments for the competition, but consider when you are not well, when you are going through a rough phase in life during that time i believe “Believe” is very key. You need to believe always there is a better tomorrow.

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  8. Barun

    I completely agree to this point Praveen. It actually brings the best out of us and outperform others

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  9. rajkumar pal

    Yes I am agree on this.
    Most of the time people are don’t believe in himself because they are not open to their past programming and new opportunities:
    People always dwelling on this two delema of confusion and end up with lot mess in his thoughts and beliefs what they want to deal with situation.

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  10. Rajat Kulkarni

    May be.. There are two sides of the same coin, depends which angle you are looking at that situation.

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  11. Unnikrishnan

    Believing in one self happens with back up of full preparation. Once you believe , that’s a commitment to self. Then you work towards it. Butterflies in stomech is not a sign of disbelief.
    We also need to forgive ourselves as winning depends on other factors. If the performance was up to your bench mark… You have already won. Like Carnegy said , what matters most is what you are thinking about what you have done. Not what others have thought about it.

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    • Dinesh Kabra

      Belief is synonyms of confidence. When some one is confident for success , we can easily say half the battle won. In case of low confidence, obviously one has to identify gaps and work on the same to boost the confidence. Many a times we entered into the battle with low confidence with knowing gaps, which dominates in mind and at the time of execution, performance gets affected and one has to excuse for failure. Hence in short, one should belief in self and keep nurturing mind with positive thoughts to get rid out of disbelief.

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    • Kashika Chowdhry

      I am an ardent supporter of what you said.. Too much belief in oneself leads to overconfidence and if we are not able to win that perticular competition it is disappointing. Also in such cases instead of realising that we didn’t work up to the mark, we start criticising the jury and other competitors saying that it was an unfair judgement. We don’t realise our mistakes as overconfidence is what overtakes us and we are not ready to accept that there are better people out there.. But when it is the case of disbelief and we accept that there are people more prepared than we are, we strive more..

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    • Kashika Chowdhry

      I am an ardent supporter of what you said.. Too much belief in oneself leads to overconfidence and if we are not able to win that perticular competition it is disappointing. Also in such cases instead of realising that we didn’t work up to the mark, we start criticising the jury and other competitors saying that it was an unfair judgement. We don’t realise our mistakes as overconfidence is what overtakes us and we are not ready to accept that there are better people out there.. But when it is the case of disbelief and we accept that there are people more prepared than we are, we strive more.

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    • Kashika Chowdhry

      I am an ardent supporter of what you said. Too much belief in oneself leads to overconfidence and then the results are often disappointing. Also when we blindly belief in ourselves and lose a competition we are most of the times not ready to accept the fact that there are better people out there but instead we criticise the jury or the results as unfair or discrimination based. We hardly learn. But when we misbelieve in ourselves we strive harder for the goal. We our under a fear that “yes, I can be defeated” “yes, there are people more trained than I am and so I need to work harder”… This feeling of uncertainty, fear and doubt though is not appreciated by all, but in my perspective, it boosts up our preparation and so we perform better.

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  12. Nalini Poojary

    The fact that we are participating. It means that somewhere deep inside I feel that I can win, but when I start disbelieving in myself, then may be we become disheartened and also lose the drive to compete and participate just for the sake of it

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  13. Rajasekar

    Belief systems are implanted poison seeds by our society. All are born with clear clean mind. Winning is within my thought process. Belief of ourself needs introspection to be a better person.

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  14. Pankaj Prakash Bhingardive

    The motivation to achieve any goal in life comes from a small belief in heart and mind that with hard work, preparation towards the right direction I can definitely achieve the target goal. You must have a small belief in yourself along with self-confidence to reach at the endpoint. Disbelief….. The word itself very negative and uninspirational …

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  15. Veenu

    Life is with hope ,hope grows with your own self comitments.To grow and fulfill your commitments you need to believe in yourself .Self believe comes with great paths and if with full confidence you move on it success is your achievement .So believe in self and have happy success life.

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  16. Deepika

    Yes… Quite a thought-provoking thought… V logical and practical… .. Intention followed by attention to appropriate action will give us the desired result

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  17. Sandip Deshmukh

    If u cross thin line of belief….

    You will start living in the phase of pseudo achievement ..if that overcome your mind ..you will not be excited to put efforts to achieve because you already lived that moment

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  18. TIRUNAVKARAS S

    I agree PRAVEEN what you are conveying is you slack or ebb a little. If you convince yourself that you are above competition. You tend to believe you are invincible. We should be ready to give 101% or fighting fit until the results are out.

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  19. Anil H M

    I got your point. Thanks for that. In between Passion and Dispassion, there should be a compassion. So we have to be in that space “Compassion”.
    I know everything is also “Ego”, i don’t know anything also “Ego”.
    Your belief shouldn’t be overconfidence. Your disbelief shouldn’t be fearful/disheartening.
    Don’t take your success into ‘head’ and failure into ‘heart’. Do reverse. Because in reverse engineering life works better. Have a great day. Thanks for Praveen, wonderful master/guru/mentor/guide/thinking in different. Thanks for your different teaching method.

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  20. Kashika Chowdhry

    I am an ardent supporter of what you said.. Too much belief in oneself leads to overconfidence and if we are not able to win that perticular competition it is disappointing. Also in such cases instead of realising that we didn’t work up to the mark, we start criticising the jury and other competitors saying that it was an unfair judgement. We don’t realise our mistakes as overconfidence is what overtakes us and we are not ready to accept that there are better people out there.. But when it is the case of disbelief and we accept that there are people more prepared than we are, we strive more.

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  21. Mathew Kalayathinal

    Mr. Wadalkar has put an entirely new, perhaps unwarranted twist.

    Believing in oneself does not mean one sits back or relaxes, as you put it. Faith, strong belief gives that extra energy which often does make all the difference.

    If you think you can, you can ;at least when the target is within the realm of possibility. Put in other words, “the possible I do now;the ‘impossible’ may take a while”.

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